How To Calm Yourself In Stressful Situations

Has something stressful or upsetting happened toI was able to become much calmer than I had been.
you recently? Maybe it was a fender bender carThis felt better plus it allowed me to have a more
accident, or telling a friend she did something thateffective conversation with my friend than I would
hurt you, or being triggered by something yourhave had if I'd been completely agitated. Here are a
spouse said, or stepping on stage to make afew examples of personal 911s I and others have
presentation. Even when you are following what lightsused: * I choose peace. * I choose love. * I choose
you up and creating more of what you truly want inserenity. * I choose joy. * I choose love over fear. *
life, not every moment of every day will be filledEverything is perfect. * All is well. * God, grant me
with ease, joy, and pleasure. Each of us hasthe serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
moments, situations, and experiences that stress andthe courage to change the things I can, and the
upset us. What can you do to help yourself duringwisdom to know the difference. While you're saying
those times? How can you calm yourself until youthe words, you could also do a grounding technique
gain more perspective to effectively deal with thesuch as pressing your feet firmly on the floor, rubbing
situation? Use your personal 911! What Is a Personalyour palms together, or deep breathing. Many people
911? 911 is the phone number we call in the U.S. whenalso add a homeopathic aid such as Bach's Rescue
we have an emergency and need help fast. We don'tRemedy. In Your Life If you'd like to experiment with
have to figure out what kind of help is needed orthis the next time you're stressed or upset, here are
which number to call; we already know if we havesome suggestions. 1) Choose your 911 now. You've
any kind of emergency, dial 911. The 911 dispatcherprobably heard people say "I can hardly think
sends the police, fire department, or medicalstraight!" Science has now shown that, in fact, we
responders; the right help is quickly on its way. 911 iscan't think clearly under certain conditions. When you
an easy and effective emergency system. Whatare flooded with feelings and physiological stress
about when you have a more personal "emergency?"responses you'll have a very hard time figuring out
You can't call the community 911 system justhow to help yourself. Have your emergency
because you're stressed, jarred, upset, anxious,response prepared so it's ready when you need it.
angry, or afraid and want some relief and helpThen, in the midst of a stressful situation, you won't
quickly. But you can call on your own personal 911.have to figure out what to do -- you just start
Your personal 911 is a sentence, phrase or word yousaying your 911! 2) Choose something that will work
say to yourself during trying times, somethingfor you. There is not a universal personal 911 that will
designed to ease and calm you. Your 911 is simplework best for everybody. Your most effective 911
and easy so you can use it anytime and anywhere.will speak strongly to you: be powerful and
You choose it in advance and use it as your first,meaningful enough for you that it will calm you, shift
immediate response when you are stressed andyour attention, and switch your perspective. It may
upset. No need to think about it; as soon as yoube one of the examples above or it may be
realize you need personal emergency help, you justsomething completely different. 3) Use it! When
start saying it. Your personal 911 will provide someyou're feeling stressed or upset, use your 911.
quick relief, reducing your stress and calming you.Repeat it over and over, like a mantra. If you start
Once you're calmer, you can then take whateverwith the little things, the stuff that's mildly upsetting,
additional actions are needed to help yourself and toyou can build your ability to use this in tougher
deal with the situation. Would One of These Worksituations as well. Your personal 911 is a simple tool to
For You? I just used a personal 911 myself. I wasadd to your life toolkit. You can quickly and easily call
meeting a friend for breakfast and I had somethingon it when you're in situations that challenge you.
to discuss that was difficult for me. Anticipating theUsing your personal 911 will reduce your stress, calm
conversation stirred me up; I was agitated andyou, and allow you to more effectively respond to
anxious, my mind was racing. To calm myself, I usedthe situation. Enjoy!
one of my personal 911s: "I choose peace." I keptBonnie McFarland works with women at midlife who
saying this to myself over and over and over again. Iare bored, stuck, or restless and wondering what to
was able to shift some of my attention from thedo with the rest of their lives. Visit for her free
thoughts that were upsetting me to more soothinge-book and ezine to create more pleasure, passion,
thoughts. Did it make my problem disappear? No, butand purpose in your life.