How to Calm Yourself in Stressful Situations

Has something stressful or upsetting happened toable to become much calmer than I had been. This
you recently? Maybe it was a fender bender carfelt better plus it allowed me to have a more
accident, or telling a friend she did something thateffective conversation with my friend than I would
hurt you, or being triggered by something yourhave had if I'd been completely agitated.
spouse said, or stepping on stage to make aHere are a few examples of personal 911s I and
presentation.others have used:
Even when you are following what lights you up and* I choose peace.
creating more of what you truly want in life, not* I choose love.
every moment of every day will be filled with ease,* I choose serenity.
joy, and pleasure. Each of us has moments,* I choose joy.
situations, and experiences that stress and upset us.* I choose love over fear.
What can you do to help yourself during those* Everything is perfect.
times? How can you calm yourself until you gain* All is well.
more perspective to effectively deal with the* God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I
situation?cannot change, the courage to change the things I
Use your personal 911!can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
What Is a Personal 911?While you're saying the words, you could also do a
911 is the phone number we call in the U.S. when wegrounding technique such as pressing your feet firmly
have an emergency and need help fast. We don'ton the floor, rubbing your palms together, or deep
have to figure out what kind of help is needed orbreathing. Many people also add a homeopathic aid
which number to call; we already know if we havesuch as Bach's Rescue Remedy.
any kind of emergency, dial 911. The 911 dispatcherIn Your Life
sends the police, fire department, or medicalIf you'd like to experiment with this the next time
responders; the right help is quickly on its way. 911 isyou're stressed or upset, here are some suggestions.
an easy and effective emergency system.1) Choose your 911 now.
What about when you have a more personalYou've probably heard people say "I can hardly think
"emergency?" You can't call the community 911straight!" Science has now shown that, in fact, we
system just because you're stressed, jarred, upset,can't think clearly under certain conditions. When you
anxious, angry, or afraid and want some relief andare flooded with feelings and physiological stress
help quickly. But you can call on your own personalresponses you'll have a very hard time figuring out
911.how to help yourself.
Your personal 911 is a sentence, phrase or word youHave your emergency response prepared so it's
say to yourself during trying times, somethingready when you need it. Then, in the midst of a
designed to ease and calm you. Your 911 is simplestressful situation, you won't have to figure out what
and easy so you can use it anytime and anywhere.to do -- you just start saying your 911!
You choose it in advance and use it as your first,2) Choose something that will work for you.
immediate response when you are stressed andThere is not a universal personal 911 that will work
upset. No need to think about it; as soon as youbest for everybody. Your most effective 911 will
realize you need personal emergency help, you justspeak strongly to you: be powerful and meaningful
start saying it.enough for you that it will calm you, shift your
Your personal 911 will provide some quick relief,attention, and switch your perspective. It may be
reducing your stress and calming you. Once you'reone of the examples above or it may be something
calmer, you can then take whatever additionalcompletely different.
actions are needed to help yourself and to deal with3) Use it!
the situation.When you're feeling stressed or upset, use your 911.
Would One of These Work For You?Repeat it over and over, like a mantra. If you start
I just used a personal 911 myself. I was meeting awith the little things, the stuff that's mildly upsetting,
friend for breakfast and I had something to discussyou can build your ability to use this in tougher
that was difficult for me. Anticipating thesituations as well.
conversation stirred me up; I was agitated andYour personal 911 is a simple tool to add to your life
anxious, my mind was racing.toolkit. You can quickly and easily call on it when
To calm myself, I used one of my personal 911s: "Iyou're in situations that challenge you. Using your
choose peace." I kept saying this to myself over andpersonal 911 will reduce your stress, calm you, and
over and over again. I was able to shift some of myallow you to more effectively respond to the
attention from the thoughts that were upsetting mesituation.
to more soothing thoughts.Enjoy!
Did it make my problem disappear? No, but I was